Mental Health for Mums: How to Prioritize Your Well-Being

Hello, amazing mums! I’m Sommayya, and today I want to focus on something that touches all of us: our mental health.

As mums, we give so much of ourselves—our time, energy, and love—and in the midst of caring for everyone else, we often forget to care for ourselves. Whether you’re balancing work, looking after your little ones, keeping the home in order, or simply searching for a bit of calm amidst the chaos, life can feel overwhelming. I’ve been there, and in many ways, I’m still there. And you know what? It’s completely okay to feel that way. It’s okay to be exhausted, and it’s more than okay to prioritize yourself every once in a while.

Today, I want to share a few simple ways I’ve learned to nurture my mental health. These are not about doing more or adding stress—they’re about embracing small moments of peace and self-care in our busy lives.

1. Finding “Me Time” (And Yes, It’s Possible!)

Let’s be honest—some days it feels like there’s no time for anything, let alone “me time.” But I’ve learned that it doesn’t have to be hours of alone time to make a difference. Even just 10 or 15 minutes a day can completely recharge you.

For me, “me time” can look like enjoying my morning coffee without rushing, reading a few pages of a book, or sneaking in a relaxing bath once the kids are in bed. Sometimes, it’s even just closing my eyes for a few deep breaths when things feel chaotic. I’ve realized that this time is sacred—it’s the little moments that remind me I’m more than just the roles I play for others. So, carve out that tiny bit of time each day. You deserve it, and you’ll feel better for it.

If you’re not sure how to fit it in, try setting a timer in the morning before the day gets crazy or taking a few extra minutes during nap time. Those moments matter, and they’re yours.

2. The Power of Mindfulness and Breathing

I never used to think about mindfulness. Between trying to meet deadlines and keep my house in order, it felt like a luxury I didn’t have time for. But I’ve discovered that mindfulness isn’t about clearing your schedule or going on retreats—it’s about being present in whatever moment you’re in.

For me, it’s as simple as pausing to breathe when things feel too much. I’ll stop what I’m doing, close my eyes, and focus on taking slow, deep breaths. I’m telling you, it’s like magic. Even just a few deep breaths can help calm the mind, and suddenly, everything feels a little more manageable.

I’ve even started involving my kids in it. We’ll sit down together, close our eyes, and breathe deeply. It’s become a moment of calm that we share, and it’s teaching them, too, that it’s okay to slow down.

3. Lean on Your Support System (It’s Okay to Ask for Help!)

I used to think I had to do everything myself. That asking for help meant I wasn’t doing a good enough job. But the truth is, none of us are meant to do this alone. Whether it’s asking your partner to take over for a while, calling a friend to vent, or leaning on family members for support—it’s okay to ask for help.

I remember a time when I was trying to do it all, and I was completely burnt out. A close friend said, “You’re doing too much. Let me help.” And it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. You don’t have to carry everything by yourself. Whether it’s sharing the mental load with your partner or finding a community of mums to talk to, having a support system is vital.

If you don’t have someone nearby, online communities can be a wonderful resource. There’s so much comfort in knowing you’re not alone in this journey.

4. Let Go of Perfection

This was a hard one for me. I had this image in my head of being the perfect mum, with the perfectly organized house, perfectly behaved children, and the perfect work-life balance. But let me tell you—perfect doesn’t exist.

I’ve learned to let go of those expectations, and it’s been so freeing. My home might not look Instagram-ready, and dinner might be scrambled eggs some nights, but that’s okay. What matters is that I’m there for my family, and I’m taking care of myself, too.

Give yourself permission to let some things go. The laundry can wait. The toys on the floor aren’t the end of the world. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough.

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5. Staying Active (Even in Small Ways)

I used to think staying active meant finding time for long workouts or going to the gym. But with two kids and a busy schedule, that’s not always realistic. What I’ve found works for me are small, manageable ways to keep moving. I’ve shared more in-depth insights on this topic in this POST.

Sometimes, that’s a walk with the stroller. Other days, it’s a quick 10-minute yoga session while the kids nap. Even chasing the kids around the park counts! Staying active helps me clear my mind and boost my mood, even if it’s just a little movement here and there.

If you can, find something that works for you—whether it’s dancing around the kitchen with your kids or stretching before bed. It all adds up, and your body (and mind) will thank you.

6. Taking Care of Your Mental Health: It’s Okay to Seek Help

This is one of the most important things I’ve learned: It’s okay to seek help when you need it. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or just not like yourself, reaching out to a therapist or counselor is a sign of strength, not weakness.

I know from personal experience that there are moments when everything feels heavy, and talking to someone can make all the difference. Whether it’s just to have someone listen or to get practical tools to manage stress, professional support is there to help you thrive.

There are also so many options for therapy nowadays—many therapists offer online sessions, making it easier for busy mums to get the support they need without leaving home.

You Matter Too

As mums, we give so much of ourselves, often without even realizing it. But we need to remember that we can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of your mental health is not selfish—it’s necessary. When you prioritize your well-being, you’re better equipped to care for those you love.

Whether it’s finding time for yourself, letting go of perfection, or seeking professional help when needed, taking care of your mental health is the best thing you can do for yourself and your family.

With love,
Sommayya